Sanjay’s wife has just broken the news of her pregnancy to him. He was ecstatic and started calling up his relatives and friends. But a few minutes later Sunanda found him sitting by himself, looking a little anxious and worried. He is unsure whether he wil be a good husband and support her through the pregnancy. He is unclear about most aspects of pregnancy. If he knows so little, will he be able to help Sunanda through the ups and downs of pregnancy?

When I started practising obstetrics 27 years ago, women usually came for their consultation with their mother or another female relative. It was uncommon to see a husband accompany his wife for an antenatal checkup. With encouragement, and the promise of being allowed in the labour room with their wives for the birth of their child, more and more husbands started accompanying their wives. Today, the majority of women come with their husbands and this is how it should be.

Pregnancy is replete with changes. The physical and emotional changes that occur in the pregnant woman can leave her partner bewildered and sometimes a little worried. To truly enjoy the pregnancy, it is important for the husband to have a complete understanding of the process of pregnancy and the innumerable adjustments that are needed.

The father is important too

Children need their fathers as much as their mothers. A man’s role as a father can begin long before the baby is born. A supportive husband can make his wife’s pregnancy easier and healthier. There is no doubt that labour and delivery is easier and shorter for women whose husbands actively participate in the process.

Dealing with the emotional roller-coaster

Physical and hormonal changes in pregnancy can wreak havoc with a woman’s moods. These changes are normal but will sometimes be unsettling and perplexing for both of you. Knowing what to expect and talking openly about it will help you, as a couple, have an upbeat experience.